Last week a client had one of the clearest visualizations for Comfort Zone that I’ve come across for sometime. She was procrastinating on taking action to be visible in her new business. Specifically, posting a video introducing herself and her services. Every time doing the video came up her brain conveniently pointed out other tasks to do. Recognizing her procrastination she choose this as the piece to address in her session.
I had her picture a door. Immediately with the door in front of her she saw herself decorating. She arranged furniture, put down rugs, hung art work and placed a wreath on the door. Everything was beautiful and homey – on this side of the door.
I had her open the door. She told me she was afraid that the door would shut if she went through. I assured her that she was in control of the door and it would stay open. On the other side of the door was another room. That room was unknown. It was large and bland. No colors, no art. There were a few pieces of odd ball furniture and nothing else. The size of the space was overwhelming “So much room for error.” The room felt lonely, unoccupied.
“What do you want to do with that room?
“Make it as beautiful and colorful as I’ve done in other spaces.” The room needed to be set up. It needed love.
This is why I relish my work. The human spirit can provide us the answers we are seeking, but rarely without an outside catalyst. When I’m that catalyst it fulfills me.
We enjoy our comfort zones. They are known, homey, lived in with our furniture and our decorations. To take action on that important piece we have been avoiding can feel threatening. It can seem that we’ll loose what we possess; if we have that honest conversation, if we step away from that group, if we solicit people to engage with our company.
Outside the comfort zone is a vast and unknown space. There really is a lot of room for error. We can get lost. We can fail. We can be overwhelmed, stressed or confused. Yet the way forward is still through that door. Your growth, destination, victory, and success is always beyond the space you currently occupy.
Here’s what you need to know. One, the door remains open. You can come back anytime to breath and regroup. Two, you are the decorator and creator of this new space. It is your space, no matter what, it is still your space, your opportunity. If you want to be there you’ll have to spend time and effort in it. Three, the unknown needs love. Love on yourself as you step out. Love on the process of growth. Love the small wins. Love the lessons and learning.
For Your Best Possible Self, Coach Christine Clark